I blame, blame, blame, and complain

I blame, blame, blame, and complain that people do not appreciate my champ. But now I realize that my account in other people's emotional banks is, at best, zero.

This is in response to Simon Sinek's Post titled "Why We Need Each Other" https://lnkd.in/g_WNHrGh Here is the original:

I try, try, try and fail. Only then will I learn and improve the way to do things.

I go, go, go and trip. I stand up, brush off my knees, look back at what I tripped over so I know what to look out for in the future. Now I don't have to trip over those things again.

I run faster and faster and faster, then miss my turn and have to go back and try again. But now I know what signs to look for to keep me moving in the right direction.

I go alone, alone, alone until I find someone on the same path and we decide to run together. I share all my falls, trips and missed turns so they can benefit from my effort. They tell me about all their falls, trips and missed opportunities so I can learn from their experiences.

Then together, we can run faster, straighter and more confidently to the place we want to go.

All human connections are fundamentally driven by value exchange. The motivation for cooperation stems from the concept of infinite game theory, where continuous value creation and exchange drive relationships forward. Equilibrium plays a crucial role in this dynamic. People may tolerate temporary imbalances in value exchange, depending on the expected duration of the relationship. However, sustained deficits can strain connections over time.

During my TEDx CSTU speaker audition with Dr. Elisabeth Xu, I enthusiastically shared insights about the relationship between language models and metaphors. Dr. Xu gently interrupted, asking, "What value can you bring to the table?" Her question left me momentarily speechless, ending the audition abruptly.

This wake-up call prompted deep reflection. I realized that value is defined by others, not by my ego. If my message wasn't resonating, my service offers or requests for others to comply did not matter to them. As I pondered this, I recognized that other than speaking on the stage to share my egoic ideas, the contribution to the community could be outside of the spotlight.

I reached out to the organizers and volunteered for off-stage tasks: setting up the venue and sweeping the floor. This shift in perspective transformed me from a value consumer to a value creator.

The experience taught me a valuable lesson: opportunities to contribute are limitless when we focus on other's needs rather than filling up our briefcase with our agendas. As I'm writing this blog now, I realize that this aligns perfectly with the theme of Dr. Xu's keynote talk "Why Managing Up Can Kill Your Career: 9 Practical Ways to Align Up and Influence Your Boss," https://lnkd.in/gA2XBvqV  The principles she discussed can be generalized to any human relationship. It's about understanding and addressing the needs of others, whether they're your boss, colleagues, spouse, investor or anyone you interact with.

This is all about pattern recognition and context awareness that could increase your life enjoyment and performance.

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What are your thoughts on this journey from self-focus to value creation? How have you navigated similar situations?

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P.S.

When I double-checked Simon's profile, I discovered he influenced me subconsciously. Or at least, his strategies have been integrated into my beliefs so much that I might have an illusion that this post was my original idea.

Look at his profile:  Optimist, New York Times bestselling author of "Start with Why" and "The Infinite Game", and founder of The Optimism Company. "